Quality Time – Read the below quote from Dr. Chapman and see if you relate to anything he says?

A Central aspect of quality time is togetherness.  I do not mean proximity.  Two people sitting in the same room are in close proximity, but they are not necessarily together.  Togetherness has to do with focused attention.  When a father is sitting on the floor, rolling a ball to his 2 year old, his attention is not focused on the ball but on his child.  For that brief moment, how ever long it lasts, they are together.  If, however, the father is talking on the phone while he rolls the ball, his attention is diluted.  Some husbands and wives think they are spending time together when, in reality they are only living in close proximity.  They are in the same house at the same time, but they are not together. 

Quality time does not mean that we have to spend our together moments gazing into each other’s eyes.  It means that we are doing something together and that we are giving our full attention to the other person

The Five Love Languages (pg. 61-62) by: Gary Chapman

Wow!!!!!!!!!!!! That’s powerful stuff Dr. Chapman.  Just reading this passage again it really resonates with me!  (maybe because Quality Time is my primary Love Language… 🙂 )

How does it sit/fit with you?  Is quality time your primary love language?  If so be sure to take some cues from Dr. Chapman and ensure the time you are spending together is un-distracted and concentrated on enjoying each other.

Just some things to think about in developing a healthy relationship with your partner.

C