BS4W – March 9, 2013

We began our March 9th group by reviewing the homework from the last bible study (scriptures that encouraged us to be respectful and submissive wives)

The scriptures that were shared were as follows:

  • Colossians 3:12-13
  • Proverbs 18:22
  • Ecclesiastes 4:9-12
  • Genesis 2:22-24
  • Colossians 3:23-24 (this one was mine :)

Our study for the week of March 9th was inspired by the Book: Have a New Husband by Friday by Dr. Kevin Leman

new husband

The Book is split into 5 chapters ( Monday through Friday), and this week we focused on the 1st two chapters (Monday & Tuesday).  I found the book to be an easy read, and was only disappointed that there were no scriptural references for the many points made in the book.

The 1st Chapter (Monday) focuses on Secrets, and the most significant one that stood out to me was that: husbands want to get it right!

  • He wants to be a good husband
  • He wants to please you
  • But he doesn’t know how to do that
  • He needs your help

The 2nd Chapter (Tuesday) Focuses on the fact that ‘he is a different creature that you’.  God has created men and women as equal, but we are not the ‘same’.  Dr. Leman encourages us to embrace that fact, as many frustrations, disappointments and fights are rooted in our lack of willingness to accept that husbands have been created to be different than wives.

In our study we talked about some of these differences, and how we can quickly take a stance that ‘our way’ of doing things is automatically the ‘better’ way, and we explored how that attitude comes from a spirit of pride.  We also talked about the negative long term effects of not letting go of that type of prideful thinking in a marriage (resentment, lack of respect, constant arguments to name a few)

The scriptures I selected to help underscore the above mentioned point were:

Genesis 2:22-25

  • How God created Eve specifically for Adam and His intention for them to be partners and companions that would enhance life for each other.

Galatians 6:2

  • We are instructed to carry each other’s burdens and while we live in a world that encourages us to be ‘independent women’ it is actually biblical to allow others (in particular our husbands) to help carry some of what burden’s us down in life.

Romans 7:14-25

  • The fact that we are ALL struggling to do what is right, and we have no hope to actually do this without the power that we receive through Christ.

Some of the discussions Questions discussed throughout the study are below:

Discussion Questions

  1. How do you demonstrate to your husband that you need him?
    1. Is it a struggle to express that you need your husband?
    2. Which differences (between husbands and wives) seem MOST challenging to live with?
    3. How do couples learn to grow in spite of their differences?
    4. What do you imagine God’s plan was in making women and men so different?

And as always we end off our study with a time of prayer*

*(If you are unable to make  it to the study, but would like to send a prayer request, please feel free to do so by e-mailing



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