The Respectful Wife

Oh boy!!!! THIS is a subject that I find VERY difficult!  I found myself hesitating as I was preparing for this week, and feeling myself resisting doing my readings to prepare for the group/study.  I know that probably doesn’t ‘sound’ very good, but I figure it’s important to be transparent and honest about how I feel when I consider the subject ‘The Respectful Wife’. ...

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Have you accepted your kid today?

Children need to feel unconditional acceptance no matter what they do, to know they’ll always belong to your household, and to learn to be competent. –Have a new Kid by Friday (pg 75) Dr. Kevin Leman   Day in and day out I see parents making the mistake of looking past this VERY important point.  They focus on the rules that aren’t being followed ...

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Love Language #5

Physical Touch Once you discover that physical touch is the primary love language of your spouse, you are limited only by your imagination on ways to express love.  Coming up with new ways and places to touch can be an exciting challenge.  If you are not accustomed to holding hands in public, you may find that you can fill your spouse’s emotional love tank ...

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Love Language #4

 Acts of Service Such actions as cooking a meal, setting a table, washing dishes, vacuuming, cleaning, a commode, getting hair out of the sink, removing the white spots from the mirror, getting bugs off the windshield, taking out the garbage, changing the baby’s diaper, painting a bedroom, dusting the bookcase, keeping the car in operating condition, washing or vacuuming the car, cleaning the garage, ...

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Love Language #3

Receiving Gifts Visual symbols of love are more important to some people than to others. A gift is something you can hold in your hand and say, “Look, he was thinking of me,” or, “She remembered me.”  You must be thinking of someone to give him/her a gift.  The gift itself is a symbol of that thought.  It doesn’t matter whether it costs money.  ...

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Love Language #2

Quality Time – Read the below quote from Dr. Chapman and see if you relate to anything he says? A Central aspect of quality time is togetherness.  I do not mean proximity.  Two people sitting in the same room are in close proximity, but they are not necessarily together.  Togetherness has to do with focused attention.  When a father is sitting on the floor, ...

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Love Language #1

Words of Affirmation (An excerpt from the Book by Gary Chapman : The five love languages) One way to express love emotionally is to use words that build up.  Solomon, author of the ancient Hebrew wisdom literature, wrote, ‘The tongue has the power of life and death’.  Many couples have never leaned the tremendous power of verbally affirming each other.  Solomon further noted, ‘An ...

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The 5 Love Languages

What is your primary love language? What makes you feel most loved by your spouse?  What do you desire above all else?  –         (Gary Chapman The five Love Languages)  Is it: Words of Affirmation Quality Time Receiving Gifts Acts of Service Physical Touch  Each of these 5 areas covers what author Gary Chapman refers to as a Love Language.  In his book he teaches ...

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Your spouse/partner being friends with an Ex-Lover

So here’s my response to the question: ‘Should I stay friends with and Ex-Lover?’ First things first, let’s define what ‘friendship with your ex’ really looks like.  Are we talking about a deep meaningful friendship where you talk regularly, hang out together, and mutually share your feelings, hopes, and dreams? Or are we talking about a friendship that is more like an acquaintance, where ...

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More work = Less work

So my last point about learning to be less sensitive is this.  Being an overly sensitive person takes A LOT out of you, and it’s not always worth it considering some of the people offending you.  Give yourself a break, and learn how to self -sooth when something is done to offend you. There is NO point waiting for other people to figure out ...

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